A Love Story in Black and White

Forward Story (Eventually) Leads to e-Romance and Marriage

By Blair Thornburgh

Published September 07, 2012, issue of September 14, 2012.
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“He met my parents, my sister, her husband, my niece and nephew — he met everybody within an hour. And then everyone left,” Rasminsky recalled. “We were alone in this house, on a hill, preparing for a hurricane together, and we had never met.”

Goldstein was nervous about making the right impression. “I know I’m not an ax murderer, so I just have to convince her of that,” he recalled thinking. “And if she’s an ax murderer, well, thankfully I’m bigger.”

After the storm and the Rasminsky clan had been successfully navigated, the couple returned to the city for a few weeks to get to know each other. He visited again in October, she went to Munich in November, and step by step the online relationship was becoming the real thing — entirely free of ax murders. To show that their relationship was the real (offline) thing, Goldstein even gave Rasminsky a symbolic birthday present: a journal of all their emails, which he’d written out by hand.

From there, it was only a matter of time before they were ready to tie the knot. “We were both at the point where we were looking for real partners,” Rasminsky remembered. “We were very straightforward from the very beginning. It was almost like an arranged marriage, but we arranged it ourselves.”

But for Rasminsky to be married in time to move to Germany with Goldstein, the planning had to be quick. Her father suggested the logical location: the mountain house where they’d been stranded.

“We were sort of shocked that we didn’t think of it ourselves,” Rasminsky said.

After marrying on July 22, the couple is already working on plans for a second wedding for friends who couldn’t make the first ceremony. A story about their nuptuals appeared in the New York Times weddings section.

After finding their future spouses through the Forward, David and Abigail Goldstein can now look forward to a future — together.

Contact Blair Thornburgh at thornburgh@forward.com


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