I invite you to consider what your needs and hopes might be in belonging to a congregation, rather than focus on the personal status (gender, race, or religious identity) of a rabbi’s partner. People join synagogues for lots of different reasons. Are you primarily seeking community and friendship with other people? Do you want to get involved in committees and the life of the synagogue? Then joining the congregation where you feel most at home with other congregants makes a lot of sense. One of the pleasures of belonging to a synagogue is the feeling that it’s a home away from home, where you see people you grow to love.
SUMMER BOOKS: Reading ‘Gender and Jewish History,’ edited by noted historians Marion A. Kaplan and Deborah Dash Moore, is a bit like sitting down for a leisurely meal.