Pressure usually makes a person less willing to convert, or else less than enthusiastic even if they do convert.
As anyone who has actually been married will attest, no matter how in love you are, no matter how fantastic your confidence or communication skills, no matter how well your parents raised you, a good marriage is hard work.
While some insist that you are Jewish if you personally believe you are, Judaism has always been a communal venture.
An ideal rabbi is one who models Jewish living, in every sense. A true spiritual leader challenges people out of their comfort zones rather than simply making them comfortable with their choices.
You can’t begin to help him navigate this until you and your spouse know exactly what you are trying to accomplish.
Allowing rabbis to marry outside the faith would show inclusivity. But one rabbi explains why it’s important to protect the boundaries of Judaism — and what he did to prove it.