Your husband sounds like my husband and many husbands, Jewish and not, that I know. My husband actively participates in our religious home-life. He recites Shabbat blessings in Hebrew and English, takes adult education classes at our synagogue, drives Sunday school carpool, attends religious school parent presentations and welcomes friends into our home for holidays.
Make her feel welcome by explaining to her what the holiday is all about and how it works. Also, let her cook her favorite dish.
Every time she makes an inappropriate remark cut short the conversation. Leave the room. Go for a walk. Eventually, she’ll get the message.
The situation with your nephews is a “teachable moment.” Capitalize on the opportunity it presents to teach your sister’s boys about respect and your children how to stand up to teasing.
Is it possible to raise children with two religions, as a recent New York Times opinion piece suggested? Jane Larkin thinks it’s not only hard — it’s wrong.