Wendy Belzberg

‘Ask Wendy’ Bids A Fond Farewell

Next week’s paper will not include my byline.Five years ago, when I began writing “Ask Wendy,” the column was an extension of my life. I would walk into a store to buy a jacket and end up sitting on the dressing-room floor counseling the saleswoman. At any given dinner party, I would spend all night talking to one

The Word Inconsiderate Comes to Mind

Many of my friends are nonworking mothers. Is it petty of me to be irritated when they make lunch dates and ask either where I’m likely to be that day (I’m in my office, which has a fixed address) or if I can meet them in their part of town? I understand that they have commitments too, but I am the one with a set schedule and prescribed

Bouncing Back From ‘Insufficient Funds’

A check my daughter received for her bat mitzvah came back from the bank [marked] “insufficient funds.” The gift was from a school friend, whose parents I don’t know well. My husband says I should call them and see if it is okay to redeposit the check, but I don’t want to embarrass anyone.

Persisting and Pestering

I have applied for a position for which I believe I am eminently qualified. I have not heard from anyone since I submitted my resume two weeks ago. Which side of the fine line between pestering and persisting do I walk? I really want the job.

— Employing job etiquette I assume you would have mentioned it if you were dating the boss’s

What Is It That Makes Men Squirm?

I had dinner with a close friend last week. I know through a mutual friend that he is having marital problems. I wondered whether to broach the subject, but decided not to ask specifically about his personal situation. My thought was that if he wanted to talk about it, he would bring it up, and I didn’t want to be intrusive. He didn’t bring

The Many Guises of Keeping Up Appearances

My wife and I have been married for 28 years, and we have three teenagers. We are both in our late 40s. My wife could make herself look much more attractive and 10 years younger if she would color and style her gray hair and start wearing makeup and nail polish — like she did when we were first married. But she insists I should accept who she

Property Versus Propriety

My friend of 20 years called to say that $150 disappeared from her purse while she was at our house. She had left her bag indoors while we were dining outside. She pointed her finger at our 12-year-old daughter. When I questioned our daughter, she was hurt and bewildered. We have never had an incident when the property of a guest went

Help! Toast Needs Meat, Wit

My son is getting married, and I will be called upon to deliver a toast at the wedding. I want to give my son, his bride and our guests some words to remember. Can you offer any hints or direction about how to compose my remarks in a clever fashion with a Jewish theme? — A mother’s mazel tovHere are the ingredients that make for a

No Need To Feel Threatened by Beau’s Wedding Ring

My boyfriend’s wife died about five years ago. He still wears his wedding ring on his right hand and has no plans to take it off. What is the rule on this? Should I feel offended? — Widow’s piqueThere is no tactful way to put this: Your boyfriend’s (dead) wife is not a threat to you. The ring may or may not be the symbol of a love he is

Emending Resume May Be Enough To Make Amends

I have an exemplary employee who has been with me for four years. He is an overachiever, a perfectionist and a lovely presence in the office; I have found him at all times to be honest and ethical. It has come to my attention, however, that he lied on his resume. He claims to have an MBA when he does not. Now what?