I’m an unobservant Jewish man who has been reading your column for awhile now. You often tell people to talk it out. I have been talking it out for years and I am looking for another way.
My mother is an observant Jew (she’s on the more traditional side of the Conservative movement), and she has never really gotten past the fact that I married a non-Jewish woman and am not raising my children Jewish. We do Hannukah and Passover, but that’s about it.
Every summer we go to a lake house together and every summer we end up fighting over Shabbat. (Mind you, it’s not because my family doesn’t do Shabbat her way, because we do, and with love. Just that when we do it with her, she is reminded of how we never observe Shabbat otherwise.) So, how can we moved past the interfaith issues when, after over a decade, we’ve determined that talking it out just won’t work. What’s next?
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