Why Can't My Hubby Pitch In During the Holidays?

I’ve been following the Forward’s Who Sets the Table? project and it is making me realize how much more I do during the holidays. I was raised Jewish and my husband was raised nothing (mom is not Jewish, dad is Jewish, but they never observed any of the holidays). We are raising our family Jewish, which he agreed to, but apparently to him this means that I do all the work and he doesn’t protest. Sure, he helps with watching our kids while I get everything ready, but that is it. I have to think about and execute everything else myself in terms of invitations, meal planning, shopping, cooking, etc. Yes, I like to make them nice. But I think you have to make them a little special, otherwise there’s no point.

Seesaw, is this just my fate for marrying someone who isn’t as dedicated to the holidays as I am? He definitely seems to enjoy them, but when they are over and I am exhausted and complain he says that if it were up to him, he wouldn’t put as much energy into them as I do.

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