I’m engaged to a Jewish woman who I have been dating for seven years. I’ve observed a lot of holidays over the years with her and her family and I love every minute of it. I’m even in charge of matzo ball soup now at Passover.
Last year she said I might try coming to synagogue with her more often. There is no expectation for me to convert, but she just wants me to get used to it since we will be married by a rabbi and raise our future kids Jewish. (I am a nothing by the way. Wasn’t raised with any religion.) So here’s my problem: I love Judaism at home but just can’t get into services — which are Reform. I feel like learning enough to really get it enough to even just follow along would take a lot of energy and time, and I just don’t have it in me. And it’s not the praying to God thing, because that I can deal with, but more just a feeling of being really confused and bored for an hour or two and not feeling it at all.
Seesaw, is it reasonable to tell her that I just don’t think services are for me moving forward? Does that make me a bad guy?
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