My 30 year-old daughter is seriously (I think?) dating a non-Jew. My husband and I are okay with this. My girlfriends are not. One of them make just makes a face when I bring it up, two make it very clear that they wouldn’t be happy if their children did the same and another just kind of ignores the topic. We are a mix in terms of how observant we are, though none of us are Orthodox.
My friends and I are more like sisters; we go back decades. When their children meet or have met a potential spouse I always show great enthusiasm and interest and expect the same from them. I truly wasn’t prepared for the religious status of my daughter’s boyfriend to matter so much to them. Seesaw, do I bring this up with them? Educate them about their ignorance or insensitivity? Or just ignore it?
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