A JDate Love Triangle

Dear Mr. Zaslow:

About two months ago, I sent a message to a woman on JDate whom I was very interested in. I didn’t hear back from her, and in the meantime I began dating an ex-girlfriend again.

Recently, the woman from JDate e-mailed me, expressing interest and apologizing. She explained that she could not send me an email earlier because, until now, she did not have a paid subscription to the online dating site. I replied, reiterating my interest, but telling her that I am back together with an ex-girlfriend and would not feel right about pursuing someone else. She took it well and wished me luck.

Now, I know that I’m not going to stay with my ex-girlfriend, and would like to ask out this woman. Is it appropriate? How long should I wait? What should I say to her so it does not look like I’m “rebounding,” which I am definitely not?

PERPLEXED JDATER

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Jeffrey Zaslow writes about life transitions as The Wall Street Journal’s “Moving On” columnist. Alongside the professor Randy Pausch, Zaslow wrote “The Last Lecture,” a best-selling book based on an uplifting lecture Pausch gave after having been diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer. The book has been on The New York Times’ Best-Sellers list for 49 weeks.


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