Should I Date a Christian Guy — or an Atheist?

Seesaw, for five years I, a Jewish woman, dated a Christian man. We were in love, but ultimately we decided that raising an interfaith family didn’t feel right. I’ve since fallen in love with a man who has Jewish ancestry, but is an atheist and was raised by atheists and isn’t particularly culturally Jewish. As we’ve gotten deeper into the relationship I’m starting to feel as though this isn’t any easier than being with a Christian and in fact it might be harder. At least my Christian ex understood why religion matters to me; my atheist boyfriend just will never get it.

I just found out that my Christian ex broke up with his girlfriend and part of me thinks maybe my life would be better if we got back together, got married and started a family. Now, I know you can’t tell me who to pick, but perhaps you could tell me if you think my hunch about a Jewish-Christian partnership having the potential to be easier than a Jewish-Atheist partnership might have some logic to it.

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