Should I Tell My Girlfriend to Cover Up for Hanukkah?

I am the bad Jew among my mostly Modern Orthodox extended family. Meaning, I don’t do much in the way of observance and overall live a pretty secular but still very culturally Jewish life, which they mostly seem to accept.

I’m dating a non-Jewish woman and she doesn’t dress particularly modestly. It’s not like she is trying to be all sexy per se. It’s more like she’s artsy and wears sometimes strange, always interesting ensembles that tend to show some skin. Seesaw, is it appropriate for me to ask her to tone it down for the upcoming Hanukkah party?

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