Help! Church Gave Me That Feeling

I was raised Modern Orthodox. I’m not so observant anymore, but I still maintain some Jewish life. It still means something to me. I am dating an Episcopalian woman and I occasionally join her at services. Here’s my issue: I find them meaningful and moving. I connect. I don’t leave wanting to convert or anything like that — and there is no expectation from her that I do so — but I do feel like I just had a spiritual experience.

So my question is, how much emotionally and spiritually can a Jew let go when in the presence of another faith’s ritual? I want to be respectful and engaged, but I don’t want to feel like I am betraying myself and my faith.

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