Help! My Daughter's New Girl Squad is Jew-Free

My 16-year-old daughter just started hanging out with a new group of friends (and “kinda sorta” dating one of them) and none of them are Jewish. I know this age is a difficult one in terms of socializing, and I am definitely happy that she seems happy with this new group and guy. But I also see that she is less interested in Shabbat, volunteering through our synagogue and connecting with Jews overall than she used to be. We sent her to Jewish day school through the fifth grade, and those were the friends she mostly stuck with until now, so all this is quite an adjustment.

We know she is a teenager and it is her job to explore. We don’t want to force her into anything. So, Seesaw, how can we help encourage a connection to the Judaism that for so long seemed to mean so much to her without unintentionally pushing her away?

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