How Can I Show Her That Judaism Welcomes Lesbians?

This year is the first time my new non-Jewish daughter-in-law will be spending the high holidays with us. She and my daughter will be coming up from New York City and spending Rosh Hashanah with us. Our synagogue is a pretty open-minded and an inclusive one, so I don’t think there should be any issues there, should they both decide to come to services.

The hard part is that my daughter-in-law is not a big fan of religion because of her experience in her largely homophobic Christian hometown, and to a degree family, growing up. I know from my daughter that she isn’t too excited about coming up, but is doing it for her. I want to find a way to show how Judaism and the high holidays are special to us and can be meaningful to others without coming off as too pushy or like I am trying to get her to be Jewish, because I am not. Seesaw, how can I make the holiday seem compelling and inviting to her?

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