Help! Will My Grandchildren Be Catholic?

My daughter just got engaged to a Catholic man. He is a fine gentleman, extremely respectful, and we get along well. She recently let us know that after a long discussion she accepted his request that their future children be raised Catholic. She herself will remain a Jew and they will join our family for the important Jewish holidays, along with the occasional Shabbat dinner.

She indicated that if she didn’t accept the children being raised Catholic the engagement would more than likely not happen. It was a deal breaker for him and his religious family. My daughter had hoped that the children, as my wife and I hoped, would be raised interfaith. We are not very observant, but have a strong Jewish identity that means a lot to us.

We live close to our daughter and her fiancé and she has repeatedly stated that my wife and I will be a big part of their family’s life. Now I am going through emotional turmoil and need advice. Is there anything I can do to get them to reconsider raising their future children with a little less emphasis on the one religion?

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