My Husband's Not Jewish So I Can't Be a Rabbi? That's Crazy!

I am a corporate lawyer who, after eight years, is ready for a career change. I’ve long dreamt of becoming a rabbi and now that I am entering my mid-30s I feel like the time is right to give it a shot. My problem? My husband isn’t Jewish, which makes me ineligible for Reform, Conservative and, as of now, Reconstructionist rabbinical school.

We had a Jewish wedding, he participates in our Jewish home and we had a bris for our son who will be starting a Jewish preschool this fall. Does he want to convert? No. But he comes along to our Reform synagogue with me whenever I ask and what he lacks in faith he makes up with a deep curiosity about our cultural and intellectual heritage. Am I so wrong to think that I should be able to pursue my dream of becoming a rabbi?

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