My years guarding Jewish bodies and preparing them for burial, attending funerals and making shiva calls have taught me a lot about Jewish life.
I sense a frustration here, among progressives seeking emotional responses from the Orthodox — and I want to address it.
We should know that the righteous do not require a monument to be remembered — but they should have one nevertheless.
Yizkor is more than yarzheit candles and kaddish — it’s an exercise in active memory.
Nova Scotia lox and egg scramble. A toasted poppyseed bagel. A pot of black coffee and a glass of orange juice.
When I prayed for a year for my mother — three times a day, in synagogue — I learned how to change my life.
The Festival of Lights only reminded her of darkness — until she learned to live with her grief about the death in her family.
The Jewish period of mourning, shiva, is typically one week long — unless it overlaps with a Jewish holiday. What were the rabbis thinking?
The best way to remember our teacher is to study Jewish texts, as he loved to do.
As Jews, we do not need to create new ways of grieving; we need to look no further than our own traditions in order to learn how to grieve.