Maimonides explained plainly what we pray for in the Mi Shebeirach: “there is health and illness to the soul, just as there is health and illness for the body has health and gets sick.”
The unintended effect of your son’s not wanting to talk about it may mean that your daughter in law doesn’t get to talk about it.
There isn’t a replacement for continuing her traditions. But the thing that comes closest is making sure that you see her, and those things that are valuable to her – as she wishes them to be seen.
You likely find services boring because the people who attend them do not feel themselves compelled by the spiritual ideas expressed in Jewish settings.
It’s time for a serious investigation of your background. Only after it’s done should you ask yourself the question of whether you’re “still Jewish.”
Would having this interfaith identity, where they are both committed Catholics and reflexively Jewish, really help them out? I would argue that the probability of some very confused kids is high.
When one submits to being towed along by the current, it becomes difficult to teach another person how to navigate the tides.
I think my point is that most of us feel the way you do; you aren’t alone. Your struggle is part of a larger struggle; we are all trying to figure out, spiritually, the question, what do we know to be true?
In this installment of Godology, Elissa Strauss and Scott Perlo discuss what it means not to believe that the Torah was written by God’s hand.