Help! My Adult Daughter's a Schnorrer

Dear Mr. Zaslow:

I raised three daughters in a nice middle-class, haimish home. My youngest daugher is a real schnorrer — a cheapskate.

She flaunts her frugality. Her home furnishings are “dumpster décor,” and sometimes, she’ll go to Costco and eat her lunch by sampling food served by the various demonstrators. Recently she told me, “Forget about dry cleaning a dress; that costs more than $8. I just donate it to the Salvation Army. They launder it, dry clean it, and I buy it back for two bucks!”

Is there something wrong with being so cheap, or his her extreme lack of materialism something that should be commended — especially in these difficult economic times?


Jeffrey Zaslow Replies

Jeffrey Zaslow writes about life transitions as The Wall Street Journal’s “Moving On” columnist. Alongside the professor Randy Pausch, Zaslow wrote “The Last Lecture,” a best-selling book based on an uplifting lecture Pausch gave after having been diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer. The book has been on The New York Times’ Best-Sellers list for 48 weeks.

Send a letter to the Bintel Brief at Questions selected for publication will be printed anonymously.

Your Comments

The Forward welcomes reader comments in order to promote thoughtful discussion on issues of importance to the Jewish community. All readers can browse the comments, and all Forward subscribers can add to the conversation. In the interest of maintaining a civil forum, The Forward requires that all commenters be appropriately respectful toward our writers, other commenters and the subjects of the articles. Vigorous debate and reasoned critique are welcome; name-calling and personal invective are not and will be deleted. Egregious commenters or repeat offenders will be banned from commenting. While we generally do not seek to edit or actively moderate comments, our spam filter prevents most links and certain key words from being posted and the Forward reserves the right to remove comments for any reason.

Recommend this article

Help! My Adult Daughter's a Schnorrer

Thank you!

This article has been sent!