Help! I'm Superstitious About My Jewish Friend's Baby Shower

Dear Bintel Brief,

My friend, who is Jewish, is pregnant — and has decided to have a baby shower. She is not superstitious about such events, and is fine with receiving gifts more than a month before her due date. I, however, believe strongly in the Jewish tradition of withholding gifts until the baby arrives. Should I attend the shower? And, if so, is it okay to arrive sans gift?


Hanna Rosin is a writer for the Atlantic and Double X, and the author of “God’s Harvard: A Christian College on a Mission to Save America” (Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2007). The Israeli-born, Queens-reared Rosin lives in Washington, D.C. with her husband and their three children.

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