It’s spring, and your calendar might be filling with wedding invitations. Or maybe you’re planning your own wedding, and/or discovering that you dislike weddings and the myriad pressures they can bring. Whatever you’re feeling about wedding ceremonies, or romantic love altogether, Israeli director Rama Burshtein’s poignant, funny, and beautifully heartfelt second feature, “The Wedding Plan”, has something to say to you.
When I had my first child, I learned how to be a mother with chronic pain. The learning curve was so steep that my husband and I adjusted our expectations: instead of having two children, as we always assumed we would, this would be our only child. But after a few years, and an operation that successfully treated one aspect of my pain, we began talking about whether we should try to have a second child. After months of discussion, we decided to go for it. At the same time, I began a wide range of new pain treatments.
Few topics are as commonplace and secret as miscarriage. The secrecy is fully understandable on an individual level, but can pose challenges of its own. Thus why, in a moving essay about her own experiences, Hadley Freeman writes that she “find[s] the idea that women aren’t supposed to talk about this – that whole ‘Don’t tell anyone that you’re pregnant until after 12 weeks, just in case you then have to tell them that it died and that would be super awkward!’ — verging on the misogynistic.” Adds Freeman: