This article is part of our morning briefing. Click here to get it delivered to your inbox each weekday. Three years on, this sprawling family is still Zooming Shabbat dinner
The U.S. ended its COVID public health emergency last week. But this clan is still getting together virtually each Friday, more than 50 people across four generations and three time zones, to say kiddush and catch up. The weekly ritual kept them connected through lockdown and far beyond, through the ups and downs of everyday life — and a tragic loss.
A big clan, tight knit: Some family members join from cars, some from couches; once, vacationing relatives dialed in from a hotel balcony in Costa Rica. Alex Gross, a 93-year-old Holocaust survivor, leads the blessing over the wine, and his sister, also a survivor, entertains with Yiddish songs. |
Uncle Alex and Aunt Roz at their Passover Seder last month. (Courtesy Erica Zurkow) |
‘Family is home’: The weekly ritual proved particularly important last July, when a 23-year-old member of the family died of fentanyl poisoning. The next Shabbat, after services, the young man’s parents, Erica and Peter Zurkow, logged in. “It was so hard,” Erica told our Rebecca Salzhauer. “But there was the family doing the same thing the family does every Friday night, and that was reassuring to all of us.”
No stopping: Though they can gather now again in person for holidays, they don’t plan to stop the weekly call. “The whole thing about the call is that it’s not really, to me, about the call,” said Ben Zurkow, 29. “It’s about keeping a line of communication open.” |
Jews marched Thursday in the Muslim Quarter of Jerusalem’s Old City. (Getty) |
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Nora Ephron attends the premiere of ‘Julie & Julia’ in 2009 in New York City. (Getty) |
On this day in history (1941): Writer and filmmaker Nora Ephron was born. Best known for her romantic comedies Sleepless in Seattle and When Harry Met Sally, Ephron also wrote a column for Esquire and the semi-autobiographical novel Heartburn. Forward contributor Abigail Pogrebin, who interviewed Ephron for her book Stars of David, wrote: “For all her Jewish disconnection, she felt utterly Jewish to me.” Ephron died, at 71, in 2012. |
Jury selection is expected to end next week for the trial of the man accused of killing 11 people at Pittsburgh’s Tree of Life synagogue. A documentary about the 2018 event, the deadliest antisemitic attack in American history, is streaming now on HBO Max. Watch the trailer above. — Thanks to Beth Harpaz, Matthew Litman, Rebecca Salzhauer and Talya Zax for contributing to today’s newsletter. You can reach the “Forwarding” team at [email protected]. |
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