A College Grad: Dependent on Dad, Consumed by Guilt by the Forward

A College Grad: Dependent on Dad, Consumed by Guilt

A College Grad: Dependent on Dad, Consumed by Guilt by the Forward

Dear Bintel Brief:

As a recent college graduate, I feel very lucky — particularly in this economic environment — to have landed a job in a creative and very competitive field. I find my work fulfilling in all respects but one: It simply doesn’t pay enough for me to live even a no-frills existence in New York, where my job is.

Since my workweeks regularly exceed 60 hours, and my job requires me to be “on call” most evening and weekends, seeking out a second job to supplement my meager paycheck does not seem like a realistic option.

My parents are currently giving me around $200 a month to help pay my bills and rent. However, the check inevitably comes with both a nudge from my dad about the importance of self-sufficiency and with a whole lot of self-imposed guilt and frustration that I can’t stand on my own two feet.

I’m embarrassed asking for and accepting handouts from my parents, who paid in full for my education with the reasonable expectation that I’d be paying my own bills after graduation. But I don’t see another way to make ends meet if I am going to stay on what I think is a very promising career path.

What should I do?


Mayim Bialik replies:

Mayim Bialik, who starred in 1990s sitcom “Blossom,” is an actress and a neuroscientist. Her Web site is www.mayimbialik.net.

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A College Grad: Dependent on Dad, Consumed by Guilt

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