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Blogging Fifty First J dates

Recently, while eating at a diner in New York with my bubbe and zayde they began asking random people seated at nearby tables if they knew any nice Jewish girls for me. I was mortified.

For Jews marauded by relatives with marriage queries, desperately playing the dating game, Fifty First (J) Dates is a compelling and comical confessional blog, about just how bad (and entertaining) it can be. Meredith Fineman chronicles her own and others’ JDate debacles and also gives tips on how to navigate the not-always-kosher world of online in-Tribe romance. In doing basic searches on the largest Jewish dating site Fineman explains some of the site’s features: “‘Closest to You’ is a great strategy for booty calls. ‘Most Popular’ is for the JDate cads. And ‘Newest’ is for the fresh meat. Fresh kosher meat.”

Whether having an allergy attack and getting a parking ticket on a first date, or randomly linking up with her Dad’s childhood best friend’s son, Fineman shares funny stories that make jumping into the Jewish dating world easier for the rest of us. Will she find her beshert by blogging? We’ll definitely keep reading to find out.

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