With a Stay-at-Home Husband, Who Does the Chores?

Dear Bintel Brief:

My husband is taking a few months off from work to write fiction. He’s always felt like writing was his calling, but until now has not had the opportunity to devote more than a few hours a week to writing.

On most weekdays, while I’m at the office, he’s at home writing. I support his commitment to his craft, and believe that he has the talent to succeed as a writer.

My question is this: Can I expect him to contribute more than I do to the household chores — such as cooking, ironing and grocery shopping — since he’s working from home, without pay? Or should I be treat his creative endeavors as if he had a full-time job with compensation?


Joan Nathan responds:

Joan Nathan is the author of numerous cookbooks, including “Jewish Cooking in America” (Knopf, 1994), “Joan Nathan’s Jewish Holiday Cookbook” (Schocken, 2004) and “The New American Cooking” (Knopf, 2005). She is at work on a book about French Jewish cuisine, slated release next fall.

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