Family Food Fights This Holiday Season

As much as Jews love their holiday feasting, big family meals can also bring up some anxiety. Maybe you keep more kosher than your parents. Maybe less. Maybe you used to be a vegetarian, but now you eat meat, but only if it’s sustainably raised. Navigating special food needs with loved ones is fraught because of the powerful symbolism of sharing (or not sharing) food. We know from our tradition of kashrut that the notion of “permitted” and “forbidden” foods plays a role in determining who sits together at the table. But what happens when we expressly want to eat together, just not eat the same food? This real email exchange (below), between a Jewish farming couple (Jon and Sherry — names changed for anonymity) and their family before a holiday visit, brings some of these questions to light (lightly!). Share your own family stories in the comments.

On Nov 22, 2011, at 5:01 PM, Sherry (Jon’s wife) wrote:

On 11/22/2011 5:29 PM, David (Sherry’s cousin) responds:

On 11/22/2011 6:09 PM, Richard (Jon’s Dad) wrote:

On 11/22/2011 7:59 PM, Rachel (Jon’s Mom) wrote:

On 11/22/2011 7:15 PM, Pam (Sherry’s aunt) wrote:

Thank you to our friends at [Kayam Farm][1] for sharing this email exchange.

[1]: http:// http://www.kayamfarm.org/

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