Bintel Brief: Rabbi Shmuley Boteach Helps a Grandmother Connect With Her Non-Jewish Grandson

Rabbi Shmuley Boteach

Dear Rabbi Boteach,

My youngest son married outside the faith and now has a young baby. It was very difficult for me when he got married, but I Knew there was no reversing his decision, and so I have tried to make the best of it. This was not easy, as my Jewish heritage is an integral part of my life and practice.

I know that he has no interest in Judaism, but when he told me that he was not going to circumcise his son it further increased my agony. The baby has nothing to do with these decisions, and I believe with all my heart that he deserves grandparents who love him (his other grandmother is deceased). Yet, I can’t feel the bond that I want to. When I am with him, I feel alienated from him. I don’t want to, but I don’t know how to overcome these feelings.

I have other grandchildren who are being brought up in a very Jewish home, and I dearly love them and feel the close bond I wish I could feel with this grandchild.

I would appreciate it if you would give me some guidance in dealing with this situation. I would also appreciate it if other readers who experienced the same feelings would write in and tell me how they handled it and what happened as time went by.

DISTANT RELATIVE

Rabbi Shmuley Boteach replies:


Rabbi Shmuley Boteach is the host of The Learning Channel’s “Shalom in the Home” and the author of numerous books, including “Kosher Sex,” “Kosher Adultery,” “Dating Secrets of the Ten Commandments” and “Judaism for Everyone.”

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