How To Answer the Question 'Are You Pregnant Yet?' by the Forward

How To Answer the Question 'Are You Pregnant Yet?'

How To Answer the Question 'Are You Pregnant Yet?' by the Forward

Dear Bintel Brief:

Six months ago, my husband and I began trying to conceive our first child. Since we’re both young and healthy, and had no reason to think we’d encounter any problems getting pregnant, we told close friends and family that we were “trying.”

But making a baby has proved harder than expected, and I’m still not pregnant. Not only am I facing disappointment and frustration month after month, those feelings are compounded by frequent questions from loved ones who want to know if I’m “pregnant yet” — and if not, why not, and if I want to talk about it. When I say that I don’t, the conversation often becomes uncomfortable.

I wish my husband and I had kept quiet about our plans to start a family. But now that the cat is out of the bag: How should I tell inquiring minds to cease and desist, as far as pregnancy questions are concerned, without alienating cherished friends and family members?


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How To Answer the Question 'Are You Pregnant Yet?'

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