Sarah Silverman spoke on Howard Stern’s show on Monday about how Louis C.K. masturbated in front of her with her consent. Referencing his non-consensual masturbation in front of other women, she said, “I believe he has remorse. I just want him to talk about it on stage. He’s going to have to find his way or not find his way.” That evening, one of the women C.K. harassed responded to Silverman’s interview by tweeting about the comedian: “He took away a day I worked years for and still has no remorse. He’s a predator who victimized women for decades and lied about it.” Silverman apologized directly.
Here’s their full interaction:
Rebecca I’m sorry. Ugh this is why I don’t like weighing in. I can’t seem to do press 4 my show w/out being asked about it. But you’re right- you were equals and he fucked with you and it’s not ok. I’m sorry, friend. You are so talented and so kind.— Sarah Silverman (@SarahKSilverman) October 22, 2018
Ladies and…just ladies, actually. Other people, just sit down. Let’s take a look at this situation: Sarah Silverman, who has already spoken decisively against C.K.’s crime in spite of their decades of friendship, was just trying to promote her own work when she was asked about her experiences. She told the truth about her experiences and opinions, and inadvertently hurt Rebecca Corry.
According to Silverman, “When we were kids, and [C.K.] asked if he could masturbate in front of me, sometimes I’d go: ‘F*ck yeah, I want to see that!” (Silverman and C.K. have been friends since their early years in comedy, likely by “kids,” she means her 20s.) “I’m not making excuses for him, so please don’t take this that way,” she explained. “It’s not analogous to the other women that are talking about what he did to them. He could offer me nothing.”
Corry, one of five women who accused C.K. of harassment in the New York Times — harassment C.K. later acknowledged — responded that she was no less C.K.’s equal at the time of her harassment, and that she doesn’t believe him to be remorseful.
Corry, and the other four women whom C.K. harassed, lived with their experiences for years, too afraid to speak and maligned when they did.
Silverman, who works to see the spark of the divine in every person, accidentally hurt Corry (and perhaps those other women) while trying to promote her art.
Can we all agree that the person who should be apologizing is Louis C.K.?
“I believe he has remorse,” Silverman told Stern. That’s nice to say, but C.K. actually hasn’t apologized. He didn’t apologize in the statement he published in the Times acknowledging the harassment. He didn’t apologize to any of his victims. And he didn’t apologize to his fans.
If that’s remorse, it’s a funny way of showing it. Not so funny you’d pay to hear it in a comedy club, you know? He should probably put his apology online for free — like everyone else.
Jenny Singer is the deputy lifestyle editor for the Forward. You can reach her at Singer@forward.com or on Twitter @jeanvaljenny
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