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Remembering Mary Tyler Moore, an Icon of Hope for This Jewish Woman

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By Phoebe Maltz Bovy January 25, 2017

Mary Tyler Moore has died today at 80. Who was she and why am I crying?

First, as Mary Richards, pioneering single career woman protagonist on The Mary Tyler Moore Show:

Next, as Laura Petrie, on The Dick Van Dyke Show:

Laura Petrie, Moore’s character on the show, was also a style icon, dare I say my style icon, even if the result is… well, what it would be on someone 5’2” who’d never been a dancer.

Mary Richards, however, changed everything. It wasn’t just that there she was, a 30-something unmarried woman whose work life and female friendship were the plot. It was, well, every facet of the show. Her interactions with her male boss and nearly all male colleagues. Her chats with neighbor and (Jewish) best friend Rhoda, ostensibly about their quests for husbands, but only ostensibly. Mary Tyler Moore, iconic largely from that role, represents a moment of tremendous feminist hope.

The Jewish history of Mary Tyler Moore, person and TV personas, is extensive and very well-known, or maybe just in my family? There was the Mary Tyler Moore Show episode where Mary fights anti-Semitism. (A snooty old friend of Mary’s turns out to hate Rhoda for a sinister reason.) There was, well, Rhoda. Her earlier series, The Dick Van Dyke Show, has Jewish undercurrents it would take an entire generation of my female relatives to unpack. And Moore herself married a Jewish man, in a ceremony with a rabbi.

Mary Tyler Moore, you will be missed but not forgotten.

Phoebe Maltz Bovy edits the Sisterhood, and can be reached at [email protected]. Her book, The Perils of “Privilege”, will be published by St. Martin’s Press in March 2017.

Phoebe Maltz Bovy is a former editor of the Sisterhood blog at the Forward. Her writing has appeared in several publications, including The New Republic and The Atlantic. Her book, “The Perils of ‘Privilege,’” was published by St. Martin’s Press in March 2017. She has a PhD in French and French Studies from New York University, and has read a lot of 19th century French Jewish newspapers for a 21st century American.

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