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Today’s The Jewish Holiday Where You’re Meant To Get Wine-Drunk For Feminism

Today is a Jewish holiday.

And if you’re not stomping grapes, chugging rosé, falling in love, dressing all in white, frolicking under the full moon, and celebrating the right of women to own and inherit property, you’re doing it wrong.

Tu B’Av (pronounced “too-beh-ahv”) is the most fabulous minor Jewish holiday that you know nothing about. Named for the day of the full moon in the Hebrew month of Av, it’s an ancient holiday. Its roots are biblical and its heyday was during Temple period, but it’s being revitalized in modern Israel and wherever Jews who look hot in white gather.

The earliest reference to this boozy dance-fest is in the Mishnah.

Rabban Shimon ben Gamliel writes:

So, what we’re seeing here is that a) we may be doing Yom Kippur wrong, and b) Tu B’Av means dating, mating, and wine.

At risk of reading our modern ethos into Rabban ben Gamliel’s words, it does seem that women in this tradition have a certain agency that we don’t tend to see in ancient society. Yes, the men are the choosers and the couplings are heteronormative, but it is undeniable that the women have a measure of control and enthusiasm.

But it gets so much more feminist than that…

The Talmud gives a host of different explanations for celebrating Tu B’Av. One is this thing about coupling up, one claims that it’s the day God forgave the Jews for building the golden calf, one says that it celebrates a decree that allowed Jews to make pilgrimage to the Temple, one explains that Tu B’Av was the day of the year the ancient Israelites had finally gathered enough wood to burn on the alter in the Temple, and one says that it is the day the Romans allowed an important burial to take place.

But the best one, the fiercest one, the one that would make a really great movie co-starring Gal Gadot and Natalie Portman, is this:

That it celebrates the day in the Torah when the right of women to inherit land was legally recognized.

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The story of the Daughters of Zelaphehad in the Book of Numbers follows a group of sisters who lose their father. They go straight to Moses — they, as women, are not counted in the census, so they will not be able to inherit their father’s property. They appeal in front of the community and God tells Moses that not only may they inherit, but also that this will set a precedent that fathers without sons will be able to leave their possessions to their daughters.

But don’t get too excited — there’s a strong sense that all of this is being done to honor the father, not the daughters. Plus, Zelophechad’s daughters are commanded to marry within their tribe to keep the property local. Just like today’s women’s rights legislation, it just doesn’t go far enough. The change is incremental, not radical.

Today in Israel, Tu B’Av is like a low-key, sexy, Mediterranean Valentine’s Day. Bars and clubs invite patrons to dress in white, drink, mingle, and talk about the historical barriers against women’s economic equality. Well, not the last thing, but that’s up to you — you can have a regressive, paternalistic, heteronormative Tu B’av, or you can have a woke one.

Either way — dance, admire the moon, and have some wine.

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Jenny Singer is the deputy lifestyle editor for the Forward. You can reach her at Singer@forward.com or on Twitter @jeanvaljenny

This story "What Is Tu b’Av - Jewish Day of Love" was written by Jenny Singer.

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