She Swears Off Dating Jewish Men — And The Fury Of Twitter Is Beautiful by the Forward

She Swears Off Dating Jewish Men — And The Fury Of Twitter Is Beautiful

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By now, you’ve probably all read that explosive Washington Post essay entitled “I am tired of being a Jewish man’s rebellion” by Carey Purcell about the terrible struggles of being a female WASP dating Jewish guys who end up breaking your heart and settling down with a good Jewish girl.

It’s Really Hard To Be A Blond, Pearl-Wearing WASP These Days

It’s tough to be a “blond”, “white, Anglo-Saxon Protestant (WASP)” who “often [wears] pearls and can mix an excellent, and very strong, martini.” We get it. Just look at Ivanka Trump, who clearly had to flee her oppressed life of gilded Christmases and cocktail parties for the greener pastures of Passover Seders in Livingston, New Jersey and Manischewitz — though that escape route doesn’t work out for everyone, evidently. We feel your pain, Carey.


But to swear off dating all Jewish men, and accuse them of some sort of malicious tribalism (or is it racism?) — just as our intermarriage rates soar, perhaps more than any other minority — in the pages of the Washington Post? We call that chutzpah. It’s a total devaluation of a community’s — and religion’s — desperate attempts to stay afloat over centuries of Diaspora living. At its worst, it reads as downright ignorant of Jewish history (maybe that insensitivity is the reason why it didn’t work out with David, and not your pearls from the Mayflower?!), and at its best, an example of a clickbait-fueled personal essay that draws dangerous conclusions based on entirely anecdotal evidence.

It’s Really Hard To Be A Blond, Pearl-Wearing WASP These Days

In response, Twitter has been aflutter with infuriated takes — some rightfully questioning the use of that anecdotal evidence (Purcell cites her experiences with two men who happened to be Jewish), while others calling the piece downright anti-Semitic.

Here are our favorites:

Phoeby Maltz Bovy, author of ‘The Perils of Privilege’ and (former Forward Sisterhood editor):

Mara Wilson, author of ‘Where Am I Now?’:

Talia Lavin, fact-checker at the New Yorker and occasional Forward contributor:

Helen Rosner, also at the New Yorker:

Dana Schwartz responds to Purcell’s self-description of her Christian identity being rooted in martinis and in “cleaning” when she’s stressed, and to her exclusion from a Jewish boyfriend’s family Passover seder:

Adam Serwer of the Atlantic summed it up just right:

Even Roxane Gay weighed in:

And perhaps the most appropriate this week of all — courtesy of Ariel Edwards-Levy, HuffPo editor and reporter, commenting on that rich headline:


Avital Chizhik-Goldschmidt

Avital Chizhik-Goldschmidt

Avital Chizhik-Goldschmidt is the Life/Features editor at the Forward. She was previously a New York-based reporter for Haaretz. Her work has appeared in the New York TimesSalon, and Tablet, among others. Avital teaches journalism at Yeshiva University’s Stern College for Women, and does pastoral work alongside her husband Rabbi Benjamin Goldschmidt in New York City.

She Swears Off Dating Jewish Men — And The Fury Of Twitter Is Beautiful

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