It’s a cliche to say that the first year of marriage is the hardest. Simi Lichtaman’s newlywed days, documented in this blog, have taught her how much lies ahead of her.
Simi Lichtman’s husband often reminds her to take her birth-control pill. That’s how it should be, especially for Modern Orthodox women who are the ones to take precautions.
For most of her life, Simi Lichtman dreamt of living in Israel. Then she met Jeremy, and all that changed. She chose him.
My husband wants a world where both sexes get the same opportunities. One where men hold equal sway in the home and in child-rearing.
When you’re growing up Orthodox, you don’t have to remember all the mournful rules of Tisha B’Av. But once you are married, you have to decide for yourself which to observe.
Ninety-eight percent of the time Simi Lichtman is blissfully happy to be married, like she’s walking on clouds. But there’s still that other 2%.
Baking challah does not seem frightening. But when you add the belief that only happily married wives can cook it right — it can be pretty stressful.
Balancing homes — the ones Simi and Jeremy were raised in and their own apartment — isn’t easy. But the travel between the two is well worth it.
For newlywed Simi Lichtman, Shabbat feels like an opportunity for couples to spend time creating their ideal relationship. ‘Life is simpler on Shabbat, and so is our relationship,’ she says.
Simi Lichtman looks forward to seeing her husband every night. But the newlywed also savors moments spent all by herself.