It’s your first date. You’ve never met the other person, but they’ve been pre-screened and chosen for you, so you show up at the agreed-upon location, perhaps a park bench or hotel lobby. It’s daytime. You sit apart from each other, not close enough to touch or bump knees. Even though it’s the first date, you immediately discuss your future.
Does the shidduch resume help or hinder my Orthodox community’s efforts to create harmonious and sustainable marriages?
The hit show about ultra-Orthodox yeshiva students is utterly inaccurate but entirely true.
Some are happy, or happy enough, in situations others would expect to make them miserable.
While the founder of the ‘Jewish Tinder’ describes himself as a “post-affiliation” Jew, he’s accomplished what scores of religious rabbis and traditional grandparents could only dream of doing: sparking hundreds of Jewish marriages and thousands of Jewish relationships.
When I try verbalize what the experience of a single woman in the Orthodox community, I come up with a blank — it is an emptiness, something without a place.
A Time magazine article on Orthodox dating’s ‘Shidduch Crisis’ brought out the fingerpointers and busybodies. Josh Yuter writes we should trust Jewish singles to live their own lives and make their own dating choices.
As a married woman, I get to see the other side of the Orthodox dating world: that of the matchmaker.
Marriage is sacred and beautiful. Children are the greatest blessing. But it is harmful when Jewish communities convey the message that you must be married to be happy.